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Gold Suggestions in Child Education

1. Set limits

This is a very difficult thing, because of course you love your child and want to give him the most you can, but there must be a limit. So no matter what your parenting strategy is, you should set your limits. Even if you think you're the world's most understanding parents, you'll still need limits.

But how can you put a limit on your child in a loving way?

The simplest way to do this is to make sentences with 'I' rather than 'you'. So tell yourself, not your child.

That means: 'I know you want to go home at midnight, but I'm not ready to let you do that.' Instead of saying, Daha You're only 12 years old, you can't come home at that time. Yerine

Nobody likes to be used as a subject. Therefore, go to the way of telling yourself not your child.

2. Accept your child at all costs

The problem with us is that we want our children to be extremely happy at all times. But it is very important that we allow our children to live in every mood and to be with them no matter what.

We love our children so much that we can't bear to see them unhappy, so we say, "Don't worry."

However, we have to accept them all. So when they are upset or angry, they don't feel so bad when we stand by and try to understand them.

3. Remember that you are a mirror of your child

Keep in mind that your child acts as a mirror. What I mean by this is that your child will see and accept how you react to them, so that behavior becomes part of your child.

So I always told them, 'Your muddy boots!' If you say, they see your angry face and internalize it.

You may have acted so many times before, but don't worry. After that, when you need to talk about muddy boots again, try to take a more cheerful attitude. Because our children internalize our behavior to them and it becomes part of their inner world.

Please see your children, we are their mirrors.

4. All your body language and behavior is a communication

If you think your child has behavioral problems, keep this in mind: All behavior is communication.

Your child is probably trying to tell you something in the best way. So we need to determine what that behavior means and help our child find a way to express his feelings better. We must allow all emotions, even if we think these emotions are inappropriate.

We have to help our children express their feelings. In the same situation, even if we would behave in a completely different way. Because everyone is different.

5. Your child is not a project or chore

If I had to tell you one thing, it would be:

It is not a chore or a project that you need to make perfect for your child. Your child is a person you need to establish a relationship with.

It's the same whether they're a tiny baby or a big adult: your child is an individual, not a chore or a project. "

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